I thought, ‘Oh, my gosh, I’m that chewed up piece of gum, nobody re-chews a piece of gum, you throw it away.’ And that’s how easy it is to feel like you know longer have worth, you know longer have value
I can now say that I have completed all of my freshman year courses. Like, the actual classes I need to attend. Next Tuesday marks the first day of my Final Exams, which would then technically permit me to restate the first sentence. But for now, I am done with CLASSES! Now I shall reflect…
Ah, this year has been pretty amazing. Not only did I enjoy half of my courses each semester, I also feel pretty good about my grades. I am recognized on the Dean’s List for Fall 2012, and I REALLY want to keep it that way this semester. It’s probably just my inner perfectionist saying I need to stay where the bar is and never go below it. Personally, missing the initial basis would demonstrate a lack of discipline and academic attentiveness. But I value education too much to let my grades suffer.
In addition to satisfying my perfectionist tendencies in academics, I believe that I have developed truly meaningful friendships with my peers. I am still very close with friends made at Orientation (back in July 2012!) and have made some amazing friends in and outside of class.
My one close friend is graduating soon and yesterday she told me that she believes I will go far at BU. I have heard these same prophecies a lot throughout the past month. Actually, I don’t even know when these prophecies began because this semester has been so fast I can no longer keep track of the day of the week. That’s what college does to you, I guess.
But to get back on track, I cannot imagine my life somewhere else. BU has changed my perspectives, philosophies, and ambitions. It is incredible that I am (almost) done with one quarter of my college career. Seriously, where did the time go?
- dressing to impress (yourself)
- my experience using BUtique/ Unitiques
- studying for finals (or just about finals in general)
- a reflection on freshman year at BU (all the feels!!!)
- a criticism of feminism (even though I consider myself to be a feminist)
- changing my major once and for all
Just needed to provide you all (but mostly myself) with a list :)
Mother’s Day is in nearly two weeks and I cannot wait for multiple reasons:
- It’s a holiday full of love and family fun!
- I will be coming home from BU on May 11th— just in time!
- My mom is a lovely and positive person, great advisor, and a frequent social media user (so we’re never out of touch)!
- My mom will be receiving a CUSTOM CARD that I made via Cardstore.com!!!
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Seeing is believing; here’s the card I created and ordered for my mommy:
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I just read the email making its way around the interwebs. It was written by a sister of the Delta Gamma sorority at the University of Maryland. If you are easily triggered by other people’s insensitivity/use of the “F” word (both “F” words actually!)/violent threats, you may want to skip this post.
While you read the original email (below), as posted by Brobible.com, I will interject with my opinion on the passages. That being said, you may want to read the entire one straight from Brobible.com FIRST and then read my version with interjections :) (Side note: I am not invovled in Greek Life and I am not critiquing Greek Life. I am critiquing the individual who wrote this email.)
If you just opened this like I told you to, tie yourself down to whatever chair you’re sitting in, because this email is going to be a rough fucking ride.
So, this girl must have put READ THIS in the subject of the email. I’m already threatened by her violent metaphor of participating in a “rough fucking ride”…
For those of you that have your heads stuck under rocks, which apparently is the majority of this chapter, we have been FUCKING UP in terms of night time events and general social interactions with Sigma Nu. I’ve been getting texts on texts about people LITERALLY being so fucking AWKWARD and so fucking BORING. If you’re reading this right now and saying to yourself “But oh em gee [first name redacted], I’ve been having so much fun with my sisters this week!”, then punch yourself in the face right now so that I don’t have to fucking find you on campus to do it myself.
It appears that this girl has the intention of hurting someone as a result of “getting texts on texts” instead of using her own rationality to formulate her own opinions of the girls she should refer to as sisters…In addition, has this girl considered the already awkward attribute of the events these girls are attending? Think about it: We are going to be here with these people for this amount of time and you are going to have fun because that is the point of this event with these people. Clearly, the author’s definition of FUN and her sister’s definition are very different…
I do not give a flying fuck, and Sigma Nu does not give a flying fuck, about how much you fucking love to talk to your sisters. You have 361 days out of the fucking year to talk to sisters, and this week is NOT, I fucking repeat NOT ONE OF THEM. This week is about fostering relationships in the Greek community, and that’s not fucking possible if you’re going to stand around and talk to each other and not our matchup. Newsflash you stupid cocks: FRATS DON’T LIKE BORING SORORITIES. Oh wait, DOUBLE FUCKING NEWSFLASH: SIGMA NU IS NOT GOING TO WANT TO HANG OUT WITH US IF WE FUCKING SUCK, which by the way in case you’re an idiot and need it spelled out for you, WE FUCKING SUCK SO FAR.
In this passage, the author finally reveals her definition of BORING/not fun: an adjective given to girls who talk to one another at an event, which very likely is a result of the way society has fostered the definition of femininity as a synonym of submissiveness. On the contrary, the author is also generalizing what the Frat brothers’ opinions are of “BORING” sororities. They are not “hang out” material. Is that really all that matters to this girl? That boys want to hang out with her and her sisters? She should just do her own thing…
This also applies to you little shits that have talked openly about post gaming at a different frat IN FRONT OF SIGMA NU BROTHERS. Are you people fucking retarded? That’s not a rhetorical question, I LITERALLY want you to email me back telling me if you’re mentally slow so I can make sure you don’t go to anymore night time events. If Sigma Nu openly said “Yeah we’re gonna invite Zeta over”, would you be happy? WOULD YOU? No you wouldn’t, so WHY THE FUCK WOULD YOU DO IT TO THEM?? IN FRONT OF THEM?!! First of all, you SHOULDN’T be post gaming at other frats, I don’t give a FUCK if your boyfriend is in it, if your brother is in it, or if your entire family is in that frat. YOU DON’T GO. YOU. DON’T. GO. And you ESPECIALLY do fucking NOT convince other girls to leave with you.
I kind of understand where the author is coming from in the very first sentence of the above passage. I just don’t like how unprofessionally (and authoritatively) she dealt with it. She uses hurtful language that refers to mental disability and she imposes unrealistic rules upon her sisters about what they plan to do after the event. She is infringing upon the autonomy of her sisters in almost the lowest form of communication: email.
“But [first name redacted]!”, you say in a whiny little bitch voice to your computer screen as you read this email, “I’ve been cheering on our teams at all the sports, doesn’t that count for something?” NO YOU STUPID FUCKING ASS HATS, IT FUCKING DOESN’T. DO YOU WANNA KNOW FUCKING WHY?!! IT DOESN’T COUNT BECAUSE YOU’VE BEEN FUCKING UP AT SOBER FUCKING EVENTS TOO. I’ve not only gotten texts about people being fucking WEIRD at sports (for example, being stupid shits and saying stuff like “durr what’s kickball?” is not fucking funny), but I’ve gotten texts about people actually cheering for the opposing team. The opposing. Fucking. Team. ARE YOU FUCKING STUPID?!! I don’t give a SHIT about sportsmanship, YOU CHEER FOR OUR GODDAMN TEAM AND NOT THE OTHER ONE, HAVE YOU NEVER BEEN TO A SPORTS GAME? ARE YOU FUCKING BLIND? Or are you just so fucking dense about what it means to make people like you that you think being a good little supporter of the Greek community is going to make our matchup happy? Well it’s time someone told you, NO ONE FUCKING LIKES THAT, ESPECIALLY OUR FUCKING MATCHUP. I will fucking cunt punt the next person I hear about doing something like that, and I don’t give a fuck if you SOR me, I WILL FUCKING ASSAULT YOU.
This paragraph gets really out of hand. As a result of rooting for “the opposing. Fucking. Team,” the author cyber-bullies and threatens to assault the reader. The author also makes the assumption that attending a sports game is within everyone’s life experience, in addition to the major assumption that a TEXT is all TRUTH about someone’s behavior…
“Ohhh, I’m now crying because your email has made me oh so so sad”. Well good. If this email applies to you in any way, meaning if you are a little asswipe that stands in the corners at night or if you’re a weird shit that does weird shit during the day, this following message is for you: DO NOT GO TO TONIGHT’S EVENT.
I suggest that this girl learn about SELF-CARE, and maybe sign up at the nearest counseling facility. For real.
I’m not fucking kidding. Don’t go. Seriously, if you have done ANYTHING I’ve mentioned in this email and have some rare disease where you’re unable to NOT do these things, then you are HORRIBLE, I repeat, HORRIBLE PR FOR THIS CHAPTER. I would rather have 40 girls that are fun, talk to boys, and not fucking awkward than 80 that are fucking faggots. If you are one of the people that have told me “Oh nooo boo hoo I can’t talk to boys I’m too sober”, then I pity you because I don’t know how you got this far in life, and with that in mind don’t fucking show up unless you’re going to stop being a goddamn cock block for our chapter. Seriously. I swear to fucking God if I see anyone being a goddamn boner at tonight’s event, I will tell you to leave even if you’re sober. I’m not even kidding. Try me.
This is the icing on the cake when it comes to hurtful language. She not only discounts girls who have a “rare disease,” she also discounts girls who may not only be attracted to boys, or feel insecure about talking to boys in general.
And for those of you who are offended at this email, I would apologize but I really don’t give a fuck. Go fuck yourself.
After this email, I’m sure the reader feels violated, infringed upon, and downright hurt. If I were her sister, I would either want out or I would want HER out. This girl is too toxic to be around in such an environment.
It has been a stressful week: since Monday, I tried to be productive and optimistic while my internal emotions were confused and uncertain of the future. As one who firmly believes that “Everything happens for a reason,” I have compiled this list of lessons learned as a result of the Boston Marathon Bombing on Monday and Friday’s news regarding the second suspect taken into custody.
- Heroes emerge from tragic situations. I am not just acknowledging the Boston Police Department and the volunteers at the Medical Tent, but civilians also demonstrated heroic compassion on Monday. I wish I would’ve known sooner about the Boston Commons rally last night so that I could personally thank the brave individuals who kept our city safe. As for the civilians who stepped up to offer assistance, I give them each a virtual hug, too!
- I truly love everybody in my life. I consider myself a very grateful individual because I have been taught to appreciate everything I am blessed with in my life. However, this week has taught me the true value of friendship and love from family. I received numerous messages and phone calls from people back home, making sure I was okay. Their concern and compassion helped me heal from the shock; my heart grew bigger when I heard from friends that I haven’t been in contact with since High School Graduation. It was a reminder that we should all check up on each other no matter what happens in our lives or our backyards.
- This point is rather negative. Or maybe positive. I don’t know. It’s more of a rant about the dispassionate (is that a word?) news reporting I witnessed on Monday. News reporters were flocking the scene to get stories from witnesses. Yet, these witnesses were still in shock from the tragedy and may not have been in the right state of mind to relay their experience. (It is parallel in the case of rape: in order to provide sufficient evidence, you need to go to the hospital right away, offer your body for evidence in the rape kit, and then relay information about the perpetrator instantly.) It is awful that news reporting has come to such a shallow level.
- On a positive note, our community is resilient. While many individuals are overwhelmed with loss and mourning, last night’s Boston Commons rally is a great example of the city (or the students of the city, rather) coming together and taking pride in Bean Town. Thousands of Boston-area students walked to the Commons, chanting “USA” and “We love Boston” in an effort to energize the city after enduring a long week of bad news. It’s amazing that within an hour of hearing about the second suspect taken into custody, students rallied to celebrate (and also stopped to pay their respects by the Bombing site.) Another reason why my heart grows big.
It is my hope that the families and friends affected by the Boston Marathon Bombing receive the proper healing and support. It is tragic to lose lives so close to “home”. But I have a feeling that Boston will continue their efforts in building a safe and strong community.
Count your blessings and hug everyone you care about.
P.S. Continue the community building and voicing your solidarity by using the #BUnited hashtag on your social media accounts!
It should be to get women to do for ourselves what we wish the broader culture would do: judge each other based on intelligence and wit and ethical sensibility, not just our faces and bodies.
Let’s face it: our campus is a wet one. I mean that it isn’t dry. Most students partake in regular alcohol consumption (along with other drug experimentation or recreational use), and many of them are under the legal age of twenty-one. I hope this isn’t news to you. But, did you ever hear about the current alcohol and drug policy in place on campus? Here is a quote straight from the Dean of Students’ Lifebook“When the University learns of a student’s illegal possession or use of alcohol or drugs as a result of that student’s seeking medical assistance for him- or herself, or another person, that student ordinarily will not be subject to University disciplinary sanctions for possession or use of that substance so long as the student completes all education and counseling programs recommended by the University.”
My assumption is that the quote above is a new piece of information. How do you feel about it? I think it needs more clarity, better accessibility (because who reads the Lifebook?!), as well as its own web-based educational quiz for incoming Terriers. Read on for more reasons why establishing such a policy will benefit our student body.
- According to an Alcohol Task Force representative from BU’s Wellness and Prevention Services, the average BAC level for all BU medical emergency transports is .21. (In the range of .20 and .24 BAC levels, vomiting and blackouts are likely to occur.) Since this is the average BAC, it is likely that people are not calling for help until the BAC is far more than .21!
- Other private institutions in the area (Emerson, MIT, Harvard and Northeastern) have established Medical Amnesty or Good Samaritan Policies on their campuses. The state of Massachusetts also has a Good Samaritan Policy in which a person’s health and safety is priority.
- Every minute a student hesitates to call for help is further endangering the student in need of medical attention. Establishing a clear policy will encourage students to make the call for help, assist themselves or their friend(s), and avoid stressful party situations involving alcohol poisoning.
- This policy is not a way to “get off scot free”. Establishing Medical Amnesty is not a policy that encourages binge drinking or underage drinking, but rather, encourages responsibility and self-care. In addition, it is likely that the victim and/or caller in a medical emergency will be subjected to attending educational seminars on safe alcohol consumption.
- In terms of accessibility, a study on college campus online education effectiveness resulted in this way: “Students who are aware that a medical amnesty policy is in effect are 2.5 times more likely than students who expect to face disciplinary actions to call for help when witnessing the signs of alcohol poisoning.”
If you care about our student body’s health and safety, spread the word about establishing Medical Amnesty on campus. Our administration may not be keen on the idea of amending the current Lifebook statement and approach to underage drinking education now, but my hope is that in the future they will understand how significant an amendment would be for our health, safety, and on campus judicial practices.
Sometimes a photograph can be posed because it excludes something. Isn’t there always an elephant just outside the frame?
I really dislike it when I stoop down and criticize someone’s writing. I try really hard to be positive and full of praise, but this is an exception.
I just read an article by a fellow Her Campus BU writer on “How To Get in Shape for Summer” and couldn’t help but express some concern. Instead of commenting on the site and publishing to Facebook, I decided to take a less direct route and post my opinion on here.
To start, I really cannot stand that our society shoves “BEACH BODY” how-tos down our throats every time spring rolls around. I am in no circumstance to adhere to the beauty ideals of what is essentially the weight-loss and fitness industry. I am a growing woman who does not seek a temporary workout routine to kick start my weight loss or summer fitness goals. To be honest, I’ll stick with walking to any locations within a two-mile radius. Also, I have already experienced a year-long obsession with fitness and healthy eating in which I was losing a scary amount weight in a short time span, and that nearly destroyed every relationship I had.
Second of all, much of the language used in the article is quite contradictory. While the writer attempts to caution the reader about the harms of extreme dieting and the realities of non-celebrity statuses— that would no doubt bequeath us with personal trainers and nutrition experts to cook every meal—, she takes a contradictory approach by providing ways to “cut empty calories out of your diet” and encourages readers to search hashtags on instagram and tumblr for *fitspiration* or *before and after pictures* for motivation. It appears she is promoting society’s weight-loss and fitness obsession.
Finally, the article does not provide any disclaimer that notifies the readers of the author’s credibility in the weight-loss/fitness field. As a BU undergrad, I highly doubt the author has any credentials to provide such information. Nor does she provide any links to sites she consulted (I am assuming) for the article’s facts. Just a concern of mine.
That is about all I have to say in direct response to the article. Now I would like to give my take on this whole Summer thing.
IT IS NOT YET SUMMER…BUT HAVE YOU PATTED YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR GETTING THROUGH THE FIRST 1/3 OF THE YEAR? LOOK AT ALL YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED THUS FAR! YOU HAVE BEEN DOING YOUR THING AND NOBODY IS STOPPING YOU! MAKE SURE YOU ACKNOWLEDGE THAT AND GIVE YOURSELF A ROUND OF APPLAUSE!!!!
See? Nothing at all about calories, muscle mass, or changing your life(style). It’s all about celebrating you.
Barista at #Starbucks made me a #venti #greentea #latte after I told her another customer took my #grande ! Then I realized that I remember ordering just green tea… Oh well! #customerservice #respect #generosity #karma
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