By now, y’all have heard about Beyonce’s new album that was released without a warning, packed with 14 new songs and 17 full-length music videos. Radio stations and MTV are playing Drunk In Love, the baby-making track that makes love analogous to drinking too much. However, I have my personal favorite tracks from the album; one of which is Pretty Hurts.
The song’s video documents a beauty pageant through the eyes of female contestants, all of whom are under pressure to meet the beauty ideal. Beyonce is deemed the winning contestant, yet we see behind the scenes how much time, discipline, and energy is put into meeting the pageant standard. This standard is not limited to pageants, though. It may be controversial to say that nobody is immune to the Western standard of beauty, yet I truly believe that is the case. Hopefully, our generation can change that.
As an empowerment blogger, I resonated with the song’s chorus and more specifically, the lyrics, “perfection is the disease of a nation.” Perfection is not just a woman’s issue, though, contrary to what the video implies. Perfection affects people of all genders, directly and indirectly. In my opinion, Americans are constantly hearing advertisers screaming, GET RID OF THAT BELLY FAT or GET FLAWLESS SKIN or GET THE PERFECT BODY THAT’LL MAKE ALL YOUR FRIENDS JEALOUS. These destructive phrases are so powerful that it leads to self-objectification.
To combat these marketing schemes that just end up hurting our bodies, our self-esteems, our families, and even our wallets, I found some self-love tools. Check them out below:
The Representation Project’s most recent campaign highlights the successes and failures our country has experienced this year. While the video focuses on the media, it also reveals the sexist dialogue women and girls experience when interacting with (powerful) men, the horrible resistance people (men) have to a woman holding office, as well as the perpetual disgust men have with anything “feminine”.
The hate and discrimination needs to stop.
Share this video with friends, family, and even people that say “the media portrays women wonderfully nowadays”. Educate to stop the hate!
After watching the video, pledge to stop gender stereotyping through your words and your bystander interactions. The video was created by Texas Association Against Sexual Assault.
Can this be nation-wide? World-wide? Thank you!
#THX4SUPPORT: A Twitter-Based Recovery Support Event
Thanksgiving is coming. And while for many of us, that means the excitement of friends, family, and food, for many others, Thanksgiving comes with it a lot of stress, fear, and anxiety.
But you’re not alone.
And this Thanksgiving, we want to make sure that you get the support, resources, and community that you need.
This Thanksgiving, use the hash tag #thx4support on Twitter to:
- Reach our team of eating disorder, recovery, and body image activists for one-on-one support or inspiration
- Find awesome articles, videos, and resources being tweeted out by organizations and activists
- Make new friends by finding people across the country struggling with the same issues. Start a support network!
The following people will be on hand to talk you through any feelings of negativity that you experience:
- Melissa A Fabello, Body Image Activist: @fyeahmfabello
- Wagatwe Wanjuki, Writer and Activist: @wagatewe
- Arielle Lee Bair, Recovery Blogger: @arielleleebair
- Kat Lazo, Media Literacy Advocate: @theekatsmeoww
- Matt Wetsel, Survivor Turned Activist: @tiledsarenomore
- Bevin Branlandingham, Body Liberation Activist: @queerfatfemme
Use the hash tag #thx4support or tweet us directly.
Are you an organization who wants in on the action?
- Use #thx4support to tweet out related articles and resources!
- Let your followers know that this support is available. Share this graphic!
- If you have capacity, join in on giving support to people using the hash tag.
And what can individuals do?
- Follow #thx4support and send inspiration to those in need!
- Tweet out your favorite resources using #thx4support.
- Let us know what kinds of ideas and questions you have by tweeting us!
Because we believe that recovery is possible. And we know that support can help.
REBLOG TO GET THE WORD OUT.
Struggling? The National Eating Disorder Association (NEDA) can help. Call toll-free 1.800.931.2237.
Meet Lennie Naughton, a sophomore in the College of Fine Arts studying Theater Arts. I have the honor of living with Lennie in Danielsen this year (a picture of us is below). Everyday I learn something new from them, including the fact that they knew all the words to Rocky Horror Picture Show when they were eleven. At this point, I wouldn’t be surprised if you are confused as to why I use plural pronouns to refer to a singular person. I use gender-neutral pronouns to refer to Lennie because they identify as genderqueer.
To clarify, Lennie does not identify as a woman nor a man. They explain, “As far as my larger beliefs, I don’t believe in the gender binary because it’s a harmful social construct that eliminates the possibility and experience of gender non-conforming and trans* individuals.” The gender binary is what our society conceptualizes as the two-and-only-two system of men and women. This system is harmful in that gender-conforming individuals reap the benefits because people can tell that they: fit the criteria of man/woman, use the “right” bathroom, and his/her sex on their ID matches his/her gender. Gender non-conforming folk are thus left with little privilege and, sometimes, understanding.
The Greater Chicagoland area native adds that their gender identity is “just who I am.” Other things that are part of Lennie’s identity include on-campus involvement, such as: serving on the board for Gender Neutral BU, volunteering in the Center for Gender, Sexuality, and Activism, and dedicating hours to CFA School of Theater productions. In their free time (when there is any), Lennie makes DIY pins out of bottle caps, serenades me with a killer mouth trumpet and they can juggle devil sticks. Bottom line: Lennie has many talents.
However, if you ever run into Lennie, don’t ask for an autograph. Just strike up a conversation about their theatrical endeavors, the next punk show they want to see, or ask them how they make bottle cap pins look so awesome. You won’t be disappointed!
This video is incredible.
Macklemore and Ryan Lewis performed at TD Garden in Boston on Friday, November 8, 2013. I was a witness. It was incredible. Here are pictures I took during the epic event:
This is how close my friend and I were to the stage!
My friend, Lee and I cuddling before the concert began.
I apologize for the terrible photo quality, but that is MACKLEMORE. He opened with 10,000 Hours
Oh, look! It’s him again!!
At this point, Macklemore was most likely letting the stadium know that the show sold out with 12,000 people!
I love this one!
Mack repped the Boston Celtics for the first few songs.
Can’t forget about Ryan Lewis! He was going so hard on the drums!
Here’s a shot of most of the band members that accompanied Mack’s MCing.
Of course, Mary Lambert blew the crowd away when she sang the chorus to Same Love.
Macklemore performing White Walls in style.
Macklemore gettin’ silly with And We Danced!
A few days ago, TCGG answered the following question: This week, I share my own perspective in order to provide an alternative answer to the above question. That being said, my advice is not professional nor is it guaranteed to provide the desired results. Itâs up to you, the reader, to take my advice or guidance. Regardless, I present my case below: Based on the information youâve given in your question, it seems like you are confused about dealing with sober sex, because your other experiences have involved alcohol. I still have a few questions though, because sex is not one-sided. Is your partner also black-out drunk? In the case of being sober, is your partner also sober? My first piece of advice is merely assessing your partnerâs state of sobriety. Your shyness could be a product of the fact that your partner is drunk but youâre sober. Donât be afraid to request specific things that you would be more comfortable with. This communication is the best way to not only assess your partnerâs, but to give your partner a straight-forward indication of your feelings. If this isnât the case, then: how well do you know your sexual needs and desires? In the state of intoxication, itâs likely that you feel less inhibited than you do when youâre sober. Thus, a sober state could result in the heightening of your awareness, giving a better indication of what turns you on and what is a major turn-off. Consequently, the best preparation for sex with a partner is sex with yourself. Have you discovered what makes you feel sexy? To guide you to a better understanding of you and your body, check out an article I wrote for Her Campus (the Boston University chapter) a few weeks ago. It lays out a step-by-step guide to learning about your sexual needs and desires. Finally, I want to let you know that sexual experiences do not define who you are. You are a person no matter what your experiences may have been. Thanks for reaching out, and I wish you the best! This piece was written by Melanie Kirsh, a TCGG guest writer. You can find more of her work on her personal blog, When Life Gives You Melanie.